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Love & Logic – The first class

Wednesday, May 6th, 2009

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So last night Joshua and I took our first class in the Love and Logic. The basic idea of the Love and Logic parenting system seems to be helping your kids fail in a good way so they can succeed in life… but don’t quote me on that, we are still learning!  But so far we really like the class.

The class is taught by the same teacher we had for our SNAC training last year. In fact we are meeting in the same room. Our teacher is real hoot. Very funny and very skilled in what she knows and she know A LOT!

Unlike the SNAC training which was a full room, the class size this time was very small. Only 3 1/2 tables of parents. Should be good as we can ask a lot of questions and get a lot more individual attention.

One neat thing is we were not the only same sex couple in the class, we are not alone! Which again really shows how far we have come and helps me at least stop worrying that we will be blocked or denied based solely on our sexual orientation.

 We did have one freak out moment. Joshua came downtown and picked me up from work and as we started driving away, the car died. Luckily it started right up. Then about 10 blocks later on the 1-5 exit, it died again. So our poor car has the flu and is going off to see the car doctor. Normally I would be freaking out, but strangely I was the calm one this time. Joshua does the family finances and only saw more bills, I see it as a chance to get my all Electric car.

Gym Day Two…

Tuesday, April 21st, 2009

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So we had our second morning in the gym today.

Our new habit is to wake up at 5:00am and drive the 4 blocks to the gym. Where Josh runs off the pool to do his laps and I plug my head phones in and walk uphill on the treadmill for a few miles.

Yesterday Joshua was feeling it, now today I am a wreak. Professional couch potatoes are not met to endure this type of punishment!

On the plus side, we have a whole new wardrobe of  gym clothes which we look very sporty in.

And it’s Anthony by a nose….

Thursday, April 16th, 2009

So I just had my last test run for my adoption medical paperwork. Which means I am officially ahead of Joshua in the race to get our paperwork done! LOL

I just came back from Kaiser. I had to meet with the nurse to have her check my TB test results, which I passed.  Then down to the lab where they  stole 3 tubes of my blood and a cup of the yellow stuff. You know you can never go when you need to go and when you shouldn’t or can’t THEN you have to.

So next step is to finish the 121 questionnaire…. only 96 more essay questions to go!

On a more fun note, we mailed off our form and fee to take a new month and a half round of parenting classes. Love and Logic parenting. Should be good. The class is taught by the same lady who did our adoption classes last year and we both really liked her.

April Adoption Movie Night Recap

Monday, April 13th, 2009

Thank you to all our friends and family who came out and joined us. It was a great first get together. We hope have many more movie nights in the future. If you missed it we sure hope you can make the next one.

We started off with Disney’s Meet the Robinsons (on blu-ray) then watched a nice movie with a “friendly” donkey called Clerks 2, and ended the night with Death to Smoochy.

 Sam and Joshua worked the grill and served up the best movie hot dogs ever. Anthony was on popcorn duty, all of which Ryan consumed in one sitting. JJ contributed to the party with a big bag of Goldfish crackers, which was a big hit with everyone.

It was a great night of family and friends and we can’t wait for the next one. Thank you to everyone who came!

Disneyland 2009 Trip

Monday, April 6th, 2009

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Day one. We flew down on Alaksa air to Longbeach airport on Monday March 30th.  The airport (longbeach) was very small, old, and a little scary, but we saved $100.00 per person on our tickets by choosing LGB. We had a small gang of people with us this time, Joshua, Me, Sam, our friend Scott and his partner Michel. Michel also invited his friend James to come with us as well as unexpected surprise.
The shuttle that was supposed to pick us up was late. If fact when it did show up to get us they boarded us and then tried to de-board us as they had other people to pick up. After waiting 20 minutes for the shuttle we kindly refused to de-board. So we will be sending a nice letter to Prime Shuttle.

We got to our hotel about 11am. We stayed at the Fairfield hotel directly across the street from Disneyland. We spent the day in Disneyland and California adventure. This was Sam’s first trip to California Adventure and he just loved the Bugs life 3-d movie! We lost Michel and James about 30 minutes into the park and spent the rest of the day with Sam and Scott. For dinner, the four of us ate at Tortilla Joe’s in Downtown Disney. After dinner we found Michel and James, just in time to head back to the hotel and get some sleep.

Day Two was our big trip to San Diego. Sam, Josh, and I all woke up early and walked down thru Downtown Disney to the Alamo car rental location and picked up our rental car for the day. We then proceeded to drive for 2 hours to San Diego. Check out the view point photos we have posted. Thousands of mating squirrels, no really, they were everywhere, it was somewhat biblical. We had breakfast alone the way at a Denny’s like place in Oceanside.

Once we found the Zoo, (adventure) We spent the morning with Joshua’s Aunt and Uncle and met Joshua’s cousin Grace, who is adorable! Around lunchtime, Sam decided to join his Aunt, Uncle, and cousin and they headed home. Joshua and I spent the rest of the day in the Zoo alone. We had a great lunch in Albert’s restaurant and I got to see the Pandas! (check out our photos)

After the zoo, we headed over to pick Sam up and have dinner at the Aunt and Uncles house. We were both dead tired, so Joshua’s Aunt put me on a slant board. After my nap, we had a great dinner of fish tacos. The fish was gladly provided by Cousin Adrian (who likes to skip school to fish). After dinner, we drove the long trip back north to our hotel in Anaheim.

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Day 3 was our full day in the parks. We got up early again for the 8:00 early park admission only to find out that on Wednesdays they do not do the early morning entrance. So we got out of line and had breakfast at the little café off Downtown Disney. James and Sam both slept in so it was just the four of us.
Later that morning, Sam joined us for lunch at the Blue Bayou, which was wonderful!

After lunch James and Michel headed off alone, again, leaving just the four of us.
That evening Josh and I broke off from the group and had a private anniversary dinner alone at Napa Rose inside the Grand Californian hotel.  We ended the evening watching the fireworks over Disneyland from a great spot by the castle. Scott and Michel headed to bed but Josh, Sam and I stayed late (until 11pm) and road Space Mt & the new Nemo Sub ride, which is not as cool as the old sub ride, but still very very cool.

Thursday was our final day in the parks. It was also extra magic hours. So we got up early again, checked out of the hotel, then checked our luggage into baggage check and hit the park at 8am. I think we did every ride in the park with the exception of big thunder mountain. Which of some reason never made it on our radar.

At 2:00pm we walked over to our hotel unchecked our bags and took the shuttle back to Longbeach Airport (which was on time ). The flight home was uneventful other then Joshua gave me the green light to start  planing for Disney world.

So anyone want to come along?

Adoption Update

Wednesday, March 18th, 2009

We got the email from Boys and Girls Aid. They have received our application and we have been assigned our adoption clinician. We will be having our first intake meeting with her hopefully next week!

The adoption clinician is the person who will be working with us to create our home study report and will work with us to help match our family with a child. We are officially bouncing off the walls in excitement!

The DIS Unplugged Podcast

Tuesday, March 17th, 2009

logo-top-lftSo we just had our 15 mins of fame…

We wrote in a thank you letter to the Disney Information Station and their Podcast team and our letter was read on air. We both love this podcast and if you love disneyworld you will too!

To hear our E-Mail read  and the funny response head to http://www.wdwinfo.com/disney-podcast/downloads.htm or head to iTunes and search for the DIS Unplugged Podcast. They read our letter at about 39 minutes and 40 sec into the 03/12/09 E-Mail show.

March Update

Thursday, March 5th, 2009

Today was big day for the DeSoren Family.

We mailed our application off to Boys & Girls Aid! It as seem forever since we did the classes last year. Since then we have been busy updating our house and saving money to pay for the home study.

 

According to the paperwork we should hear back from Boys & Girls to setup our first meeting in a week or so… and yes, feels like a year away right now.

February 2009 Update

Wednesday, February 4th, 2009

So after months of being able to post something, I will finally post something! LOL
I started a nice letter to send to everyone for Christmas. Then the snow came so I have edited and posted it here.

As 2008 ends and 2009 begins we thought you might like to know how things are going in our world.
Messalina and Claudius (our cats) are both well. Messalina has found a new place to sleep at night, right at the foot of the bed and two inches below Anthony’s feet so she can better lick Anthony’s feet at 1:00am to show her love. Claudius, not to be out done has moved his evening repose to the dead center of the bed right between us. The honor of whom he faces changes nightly. But no matter what he blesses one of us with claws and the other with fur up the nose.
We had one medical scare with Messalina when Anthony found blood on the bed sheets and Messy bleeding from her mouth. Luckily it only turned out to just be a $900.00 abscessed tooth. Unluckily for Messy the Doctor did have to pull her lower right fang. She is now the 3 fang wonder. And thanks to Joshua working for Banfield we got the $900.00 bill knocked down to under $50.00
This past June , Sam (Joshua’s brother) came up from Arizona to live with us. Yes, Mom finally had enough and figured that Sam would do better in a here in Portland… That or she hates us… We are still trying to figure out which. Sam is doing well, but still has not adapted to the NW weather. Summer was too cold and winter is proving to be his undoing. His first spring week half of Portland was in shorts while poor Sam shivered under two layers of clothing and a heavy coat.
Sam is currently working at Safeway as a checker, backup deli, and nighttime file maintenance engineer. Hopefully soon they will be giving him more hours so he can begin to keep us in the lifestyle to which we have not been accustomed to. Until then he continues to raid our pantry at night while we sleep. When Mom told us of his impending arrival in our lives, we decided that it would be a good idea to get a bigger house and move out of our townhouse apartment. So we moved a few blocks away to the Starkwood area where we have a little more privacy and rented a real house. The house is a nice three bedroom with back yard and small garden that we planted in the back. Anthony, showing off his green thumb, planted a multitude of veggies while Josh and Sam barbequed all summer.
In July James, Joshua’s other “French” brother, who came up came for 4th of July week. We all drove down to Oceanside, Oregon where we spent the weekend in a new ocean house with an amazing view! The on beach fireworks show was one of best we have ever seen and more amazing both Josh and James still have all their fingers at the end of the evening.
Then just when we thought we had the house empty, Sam’s girlfriend, Kelly, came up unexpectedly for an extended stay to visit Sam in his new hamster cage….. ahh new home and help him polish off what was left in our now empty pantry.
September saw us in Disney World again for our yearly vacation. For the second year in a row, we traveled down during their free dining month. No crowds and free meals at all the wonderful Disney restaurants. We stayed at the Disney Riverside Hotel and had a blast driving around in our rented PT Crusier. Disney World was great but our trips in 2009 looks even better. We are currently planning a road trip this spring to visit the family in Salt Lake and Phoenix. And it looks good that both of our jobs will be sending us to Las Vegas for two separate conventions.
As you might know, Joshua is currently enrolled in University of Phoenix and is now only 2 years away from his Bachelors degree in Finance. Joshua is excelling with a 3.53 GPA. Joshua also recently received promotion at work and transferred departments from Payroll to Marketing as a Pricing Analyst.
After years dedicated service, Anthony was recently “honored” by being appointed to the position of Speaker of the House, for the new Parliament for the International Court System. The Imperial Court System is a LGBT nonprofit organization with chapters in 65 cities across the United States, Canada and Mexico that helps raise money for charities. Anthony will be overseeing the Parliament for 2 years. Which will be meeting at fun locations all over the United States.
Our biggest news started a few months ago while searching the internet. We came across the Oregon waiting children’s adoption page. After reading a few of the children’s stories one story made us stop cold. The adoption agency was actively looking for a two father home. After both of us read the story and had a long talk we decided that adopting a child was something we both wanted to look into doing. So we decided, that we should start the groundwork to make that happen someday. Step one on the road to adoption was to become a legally recognized couple by the state of Oregon.
Step two happened a week later when we took our first orientation class then quickly signed up for the pre-adoption training classes. Now with all our adoption classes taken, we are currently looking into a special needs adoption here in Oregon. Special needs children are children in state foster care of varying ages and ethnicity waiting to be adopted. Due to backgrounds of neglect or abuse, some may have cognitive, physical, or emotional delays or disabilities. Our dream currently is to adopt a little boy between 4 and 8 years old. We have opened a special savings account and have been faithful adding money monthly so we can add a limb to our family tree. The average adoption in the United States runs around $10,000 so we are asking anyone who would like to help us achieve our adoption dream to help donate to our adoption fund. So if you want to get us anything for a wedding gift, Christmas present or birthday gift for a while at least… please just send money every penny will help us out.