Archive for February, 2014

And the Rain, Rain, Rain Came Down, Down, Down…

Wednesday, February 26th, 2014

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When it rains, it pours. History seems to be repeating itself. Two weeks out from going to committee on two kidos, our adoption worker E-Mails that different caseworker is interested in us for a different set of kidos.

This happened before when we went just a few weeks out from Jayme’ committee we had the chance to go to a second committee on another child. (SEE POST) Back then we said no and stuck with Jayme. That turned out to be the smartest decision we have ever made.  We can’t imagine now another child more perfect then Jayme for our family.

This time around  we are going to get additional information and review all our options but our family is still working towards a March 10th committee meeting.

 

Everything is Awesome

Sunday, February 23rd, 2014

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The Big Day

Once again we tucked in our little boy… our 8 year old boy and woke up a 9 year old. This is not getting any easier. Our little guy is growing more and more everyday. Seems every day our little guy fades away and this preteen version of our little guy appears more and more.

The Dad’s woke Jayme up with birthday music. The night before Daddy Anthony had pick up a car full of balloons and a huge Happy birthday banner. When Jayme came down for breakfast he found that we had the breakfast table covered with presents and fully decorated for a birthday breakfast. Anthony made homemade blackberry pancakes with homemade blackberry syrup. Jayme was SO excited and gobbled up his breakfast and started his big birthday weekend.

At 12:30pm at school Joshua arrived with cupcakes and apple juice for Jayme’s whole class. Jayme was thrilled!

For his birthday dinner this year Jayme said he wanted to stay at home and have a house party. But he wanted to eat and he said California Pizza Kitchen. So Joshua ran over an got Jayme’s favorite pizza the BBQ Chicken pizza with pineapple on top. We all sat around our dining room table and had our take out feast.

Jayme decided to open most of his gifts this year on this birthday, but he pick out the two largest to open at his birthday party with this school mates the next day. He got a Perplexus, two Lord of the Rings Lego sets, Risk the board game and more Pokemon stuff.

At 8:00pm we got in the car and drove down the hill to Clackamas Town Center and bought our tickets for the 8:15pm Digital 3-D showing of LEGO the movie. We stopped off in the concession area and got Jayme a big Coke slurpy and a large popcorn. He LOVED the movie and had an amazing evening. All the way home (and for the rest of the weekend) he sang the Lego theme song over and over and over again.

Bowling Party

Joshua loaded his car with the remaining birthday presents and party favors. Then he made for the bowling alley. Anthony and Jayme headed to Baskin Robins in Anthony’s car to pick up the ice cream birthday cake!

Once everyone arrived at the bowling alley we set up our stuff and waited for our guests to arrive. Although we had invited half of Jayme’s classroom only one of his classmates had RSVPed. So we didn’t know what the turn out was going to be like. We where prepared for as many as 14 kido’s but prepped Jayme for the worst.

In the end only the one classmate made it. At first we were worried Jayme would see this as a huge negative thing and it would ruin the party for him, but both Dad’s kept their happy faces on and kept saying how much fun we could have now with a smaller party, because that meant more bowling time for every one.

The one kido who did show up was great and Jayme and him bowled for 2 hours. They both had a blast and in the end that is all that matters. We also had a large group of Jayme’s grown up supporters and friends who showed up. So the party didn’t feel empty at all, in fact we all want to go bowling again soon!

Best part of the part came right at the end, as the prepaid lanes switched off Daddy Anthony still had 2 pins standing and handed the ball over to Jayme for the official last bowl of the day. Jayme rolled and pick up the spare, it was simply amazing and a great way to end the party.

Going to Committee

Saturday, February 22nd, 2014

Not that type of committee…

So it’s official, we are going to committee on a sibling group of 2 boys. Both are younger then Jayme and live in the Portland area. The date set for the committee is March 10th 2014.  If chosen we could have them home by late March to early April.

This will be our first time going to committee post Jayme and the third committee we have ever gone to. And this time around it’s not as scary. We both are feeling very confident, which we really hope is not pride before the fall.

We have started to get the house setup as the waiting period of 7 days will just not be enough time. We have ordered the beds and toddler proofed the house and stairs.

 For those of you unsure what going to committee means:

(Content below reposted from www.lanecountyheartgallery.org)

The committee consists of three members who are usually DHS caseworkers, retired caseworkers, or social workers experienced in the adoption field.  The committee meets for three hours, usually 9-Noon or 1-4 p.m.  Occasionally it lasts longer, but not often.

Committee starts with a presentation of the child by the Case Worker (CW.  Sometimes the child’s foster parent, therapist, court appointed special advocate (CASA), or attorney, is also present and invited to tell about the child as well.  The CW usually brings pictures, or the child’s Life Book, so the committee can view photos.  The goal is for the committee to have a thorough understanding of the child’s identity, personality, and special needs.  The committee members may have questions during this time about the child based on what they hear, read, or otherwise observe.

Once the child has been presented, any representatives for the child, except the CW, are dismissed and the AWs for the families each have a turn telling the committee about the family they represent.  Again, the committee members may have questions for the Adoption Worker (AW) based on what they hear or what they have read in the family’s home study.

The committee members then remark on or list the strengths they heard or read about each family and the concerns they have about each family.  Then they vote.  If the two junior members each vote for a different family, the chair must break the tie with a vote for one of those two families so that we leave committee with a decision.  We nearly always leave committee with a decision about who will adopt the child.

When committee ends, the families receive a call informing them whether or not they were selected by the committee.  The AW who represents each family takes notes throughout the committee, types them, and forwards them to the family, usually the next day.  If a family lives outside Oregon, then at this point our agency will step aside and the family’s AW will work directly with the child’s CW to proceed with the placement.

The CW comes to committee prepared with the child’s files, which are given or sent to the family’s AW.  There is a 7-day blackout period then to give the family an opportunity to review the files more thoroughly with physicians, psychologists, teachers, and whoever else can help the family be certain this is what it wants.  During this time, the CW and AW will work with the family to make a transition plan.